Don’t make a new year’s resolution.

16/01/2023

Instead of unattainable resolutions, embrace a rhythmic readjustment.

We think its time to ban all New Year’s resolutions. The idea that you have to make promises of life altering changes after having just over indulged and spent a whole festive season eating carbs and sugars, is outdated.

Resolutions, inherently, have a negative connotation. We make them on the first of January and are lucky if we haven’t broken them by the time the new school year kicks off.

Let’s be honest. Most New Year’s resolutions are born from guilt, or from some perceived weakness or deficiency you believe you have. No wonder we aren’t motivated enough to stick to them!

Let’s try something different this year.

Whether you call it affirmation, manifestation or simply word symbolism, embrace the power of a word, and because this isn’t a list of resolutions, you don’t have to rush your decision. Send the month of January to get your ducks in a row and try out a couple of different words for size.

Think about the year you have had.

Take it in, for all the good and bad you’ve experienced. Say farewell to 2022 with a single word or phrase. Even if its just “Finally” or “Good riddance”.

Next up, think long and hard about 2023.

What you hope to achieve, what commitments you have coming up and which challenges you will have to face. The magic of the one-word resolution is that it sets the tone for the new year without becoming an emotional burden.

It’s a rhythm, not a rule.

Your word or phrase should be born out of positive aspirations. It is meant to inspire, not criticize and belittle.

Do you want to focus on your physical wellbeing?

Try words like: Thrive, Bloom, Rooted or Flourish.

Want to achieve success in your career?

Focus, Growth, Invest, and Hustle all work to inspire.

If general emotional well-being and better interpersonal relationships are your goal, words like:

Contentment, Mindfulness, Acceptance, and Connection can all help keep you in line with your aspirations.

If general emotional well-being and better interpersonal relationships are your goal, words like:

Finally, words like resilience, commitment, and forgiveness play an important role in successfully embracing your chosen rhythm.

You can be assured that you will occasionally fall short of your aspirations.

You might skip a couple of workouts, drop the ball at work or have a bad interaction with a friend or family member, but through resilience, commitment and forgiveness you can find that rhythm again, having learnt a thing or two about yourself along the way.

The key thing to remember about any hopes, dreams and aspirations you have for 2023, is that incremental changes to the rhythm of your lifestyle will have a much longer shelf life than overzealous resolutions made out of shame or guilt.

Acceptance of who you are and where you are in life is important. Acceptance does not mean that you do not strive to be better, but without knowing exactly where you are starting from, you cannot move forward.

According to Forbes.com there is a very good reason why New Year’s Resolutions are pointless:

“The psychology behind New Year’s resolutions is faulty. Resolutions can’t lead to sustainable behaviour change because they are not constructed in a way that harnesses motivation and turns it into action and change.”

A true lifestyle change, achieved over many months, will be much more sustainable and personally uplifting than a to do list of impossible tasks.

“We’re all bound to fail to lose that weight, get to inbox zero, exercise more, stop drinking so much and feel more gratitude. And because resolutions don’t work, they are inherently depressing. By one estimate, 80% of resolutions are abandoned by February.”

When envisioning your year ahead, remember to be kind to yourself.

Take stock of your achievements thus far. Chances are you’ll be surprised by what you have already achieved, and most importantly be kind to yourself and others. Remember, we are all in this together!